I have been in Bamako for the past two days spending some time away from site. Although I truly love my new site occasionally I just need an escape. I find it somewhat amusing, and some what maddening, that I am equally as good at sitting still here as I am at home. Although I want to get to know the people around me, and I wish to become a part of their daily lives, sometimes I want nothing to do with them. Part of that I attribute to the unbearable warmth of hot season and part to my own impatience. I am working on becoming more patient with the people around me, but I am finding myself to be a bit more demanding of them than I should be.
One of my most difficult goals to achieve here is going to be finding the balance between who I am and who I need to be. Obviously this is a dilemma we all struggle with throughout our lives, and it will not be solved by any one answer or thought over a short period of time. Yet here I feel as though I am under the microscope of most Malians that interact with, which intern allows me to see myself with that same scrutiny.
In talking with a couple different people (other PCVs and staff) over the past few days I have come to the conclusion that I really need to get over myself, and over the idea that everyone around me is serious. In my time here I have become somewhat hostile toward the people who talk to me, or call to me, on the street. At home I feel as though I can deal with what I consider to be negative or unwanted attention by letting it brush off me as I walk by. There I have the confidence and the language skills to simply move on without taking offense. But here I take everything too seriously. If someone says something or tries to grab my attention in town my first reaction is usually to lash out at them. Why are they making comments to me? They do not know me, and I surely do not want to go sit with them. To them it is normal and usually a simply playful interaction that I have chosen to take otherwise. I realize that this is something that will need to change soon if I wish to be an integrated volunteer, but I am finding it hard to learn about myself here and even more difficult try to alter those personality quirks that I might not adore about myself.
So as I go back to site this afternoon I am setting out with a new goal. One to be more patient and to be more laid back; to take comments and jokes with a grain of salt and realize that they are not out to get me. If am going to live here for another 16 months I am going to have to become accommodated to social norms and customs without my previous experiences and notions interfering too much.